How To Be Successful

How To Be Successful

 

I want to talk to you about something that is going to be a lot different than you probably heard, probably studied, probably been taught about being successful. I am not talking about being successful online, I am not talking about being successful in business, I am not talking about being successful in school. What I am talking is about is something way more important than that and it's this - it's how you can be successful at absolutely anything that you want. Literally, anything that you want.

I've studied a lot of successful business people, I read a lot about successful sports players, a lot of athletes. I really-really enjoy trying to figure it out what it is and what makes the difference between some people who seem to always be able to succeed in no matter what it is they set out to do, and then some people who seem to fail no matter what it is they try to do.

Before we get into that, I want to tell you guys a really funny story that led me into thinking about all this. Here is how it goes - the other night, well actually seven days ago now. Today is day number seven, you will understand what that means here in a little bit. My parents were in town, and my wife who is this absolute health nut, if you haven't had a chance to meet Martie yet, I am sure you will at some event that I am attending. She is crazy, she is a lot of fun, she's very personable and the one thing about her is she's got this weird way of constantly motivating me, pushing me out of my comfort zone. My parents are here, my wife's here and normally what we do after we have dinner is we watch some kind of movie, do something just as a family, just sort of hang out and talk. My wife puts on this show, I believe it was called Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead, something like that.

Basically it's about this guy who is about 300 pounds, successful business person, but not successful in some area of his life, which was his health. Basically went he did was he went on a juice and vegetable fast, in liquid form - he did it for 60 days. Throughout this movie as we are watching it, he is challenging all these people, and I was really interested in how somebody could put their body through that. How they can stay away from pizza, and for me Wendy's and hamburgers, and beer and all that other good stuff that we all love.

We are watching this movie, and I happen to make the comment, and again this is on a Sunday - I think we had chicken wings, I had drank probably six to twelve beers, and I say well that looks easy I can do that for ten days. I didn't really think much of it, my family was thinking wow, you would do that for ten days. I wake up the next morning and my beautiful wife Martie, got to love her - I come downstairs in the morning and she's got my breakfast ready. What she had done is gone to the store, bought lots of spinach, lots of bananas, lots of apples. In fact, what I am drinking right now some fresh squeezed apple juice. If you have never had fresh squeezed juice, I don't know if you can tell on video, it looks a lot different than most apple juice that you see.

It is totally different, it tastes different. Basically she put me to the test. I said what are you doing, she said you said this would be easy, so you are going to do it. Silly me, right. That is the first thing, one thing that we all need no matter what we are trying to succeed with is somebody that can push us and motivate us to do the things we know we should do, and to actually follow through on them, accountability.

Here is what's happened, like I said today is day seven. I have had nothing to eat except for vegetables and fruit in liquid form, kind of crazy right. This has been one of the hardest things I have ever done in my life. Here is what I think is really important about this, what most people teach you about setting goals and about being successful, is to pick this huge "pie in the sky" goal. For me on this it would have been fast, drink nothing but juice and green smoothies and vegetables for ten days.

Believe me, almost every day I call my business partner Robert, I call my mom, I tell Martie, "I am quitting this, all I want is a Whopper, all I want is a Double with Cheese". This happens constantly throughout the day. What I noticed is that this craving, this choice of whether I am going to continue on the path that I am on to success or veer off onto another path, happens literally hundreds of times a day. Now here is my point with that, all I think about is what I am doing, what I am supposed to be doing, concentrating on it and when that craving comes up, when that choice comes up in my life daily, hourly, sometimes every couple of minutes as to am I going to continue onto the path to success, or am I going to quit.

I immediately choose which one I am going to take, it becomes very easy to know where you are going. Now if I would have started this process, all I was saying is I am going to go for ten days, it's not how I approached achieving the goal and I think there is a big difference here. Most people tell you, set a big goal, set a goal to have a million dollar company or ten thousand dollars a month, or run a marathon. They sort of leave you with that, and that is why so many people when they make things like New Year's Resolutions.

They are too big, they are a good "pie in the sky" but there is no practical way to actually get there. My point with all this, whether you are building a business, whether you are trying to lose weight, whether you are trying to get healthy - here is the way you approach it. Set your big goal, that's fine, but your big goal is not your focus. Your focus in on the small little steps that you are going to take in order to reach that goal, and if you just focus on what is the next step that you need to take. For me, it's every single meal, every time I get hungry what is the next thing I need to do?

I need to make a choice, do I go to eat fast food or do I continue on the fast. If I look at as it's the next choice, it's amazing how fast this "fast" has gone. I really encourage you to look at your business that way, I think so many people get caught up. They don't have a plan on how they are getting to where they want to go, and they are naive in thinking that you just set this goal and in a year you are going to be there.

Unfortunately, they don't do the steps that are necessary in order to get there. Just a little thing that I wanted to share with you guys today. I hope that this helps you, and I really hope that no matter what it is that you are trying to achieve, or succeed in, in your life you set that goal and then remember it's a constant bunch of tiny little steps. If you take those tiny little steps it will be absolutely impossible for you not to achieve your dream and goal. It will happen, take small steps, stay focused and just focus on the next task at hand and you can't help but succeed.

I hope that helped you, thanks for stopping by.

Let me know what you think is the key to succeeding in life, and the key to achieving your goals. I can't wait to hear from you and I will talk to you very soon.

Have a great day.

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Comments (26)

  • Scott Reply

    Sup bro?

    I agree with what you have said on this video. In my former life as a personal trainer, I ran into this all the time. It was the cause of a lot of headaches on my part and my clients part. It’s the wrong mentality to try to hit home runs every time. You should aim for them, but you should take the single when you can get the single.

    Thank bro.

    January 23, 2012 at 10:07 am
    • Lance Tamashiro Reply

      It’s funny, how you can’t learn to hit a “home run” until you learn how to hit a “single”…

      But once you do that it suddenly becomes easier to hit the “home run” when you are thinking about the “single”

      I need to remember this… I have tried learning guitar forever, but somehow always expect to be able to play what I hear on the radio on day one… never happens. ๐Ÿ™‚

      January 23, 2012 at 10:10 am
  • David Manning Reply

    Hi Lance,

    Great video and very sound advice, having a big goal to aim for is good but sometimes setting the bar way too high just leaves you feeling you’ve failed miserably if you don’t reach it straight away.

    But thinking about what step you need to accomplish to reach that goal, then focusing all of your attention on completing that first step, then once that’s achieved do the same with the next and so on will get you to the end goal far quicker.

    The mind is a very powerful tool and as Marty McFly said in “Back to the Future”, “When you put your mind to it, you can achieve anything” (I love those films ..er I mean movies)

    Cheers
    David.

    January 23, 2012 at 10:55 am
  • Judy Jackson Reply

    Another great and timely post Lance.

    “Let me know what you think is the key to succeeding in life, and the key to achieving your goals.” you asked. Let me answer with a math diddy I came across the other day while homeschooling my granddaughter.

    There were 3 frogs sitting on a lily pad in a pond. On frog decided to jump into the pond. How many frogs are left sitting on the lily pad?

    Answer? 3

    The frog deciding to jump into the pond is not the same thing as the frog acting and actually jumping into the pond. A decision on it’s own is nothing. It needs to be followed up by an action. That is the key to success in life and achieving your goals… making good decisions/choices then ACTING on them. Action overcomes fear, obstacles, failure, hardship… you name it.

    January 23, 2012 at 11:56 am
    • Thom Dickey Reply

      What a great video, Lance. I would like to use it on my site to encourage others & I promote your training sites. I, agree that setting a major goal & work on the process getting you there. It is like a football game. The have a major goal which is to win the game and the team must work together to reach the individual small steps that gets them to the goal that leads to the small victories of getting to those goals but the main goal is to reach the Super Bowl and each year all the teams have a chance but only 2 gets there. The teams & coaches studies the games to fix the weak points and try again. Never giving up.

      January 23, 2012 at 3:38 pm
    • Thom Dickey Reply

      Totally agree

      January 23, 2012 at 3:39 pm
  • DeAnna Troupe Reply

    Hi! I love that you included so many different ways for people to consume your content. I can certainly appreciate the fact that it takes more than just setting goals for goals to happen. I like your reminder that achieving success in anything takes steps.

    January 23, 2012 at 12:40 pm
  • Denny Reply

    Hi Lance thanks 4 the video well I think keep going dont quit is probably the best thing hope your having a great day!!!! Den

    January 23, 2012 at 2:05 pm
  • Curtis Reply

    Great, solid and simple information to help in all aspects of life. Especially, if you need help getting out of the paralysis via analysis mode.

    Just make a choice, if it is right or if it is wrong you are moving, then do course corrections along the way.

    Thanks

    January 23, 2012 at 4:18 pm
  • Robert Plank Reply

    What’s up Lance, the big thing I have gotten out of this juice fast (taking it with you) is that:

    1. It’s really easy to hit goals incrementally… just think if you wrote one article at the top of every hour until you hit 100 articles

    2. Goals are a lot easier to hit if you make them really simple (like 10 days) and not a huge lifestyle change

    3. It’s ok to make it a bit of a stretch… earlier today you told me you would rather just fast for 5 days. Just like it would be “easier” to write 10 articles than 100, it would be “easier” to launch a $197 class than a $497.

    This is getting out of your comfort zone. At least that’s the way I see it.

    January 23, 2012 at 5:24 pm
  • Roger Reply

    Hi Lance,

    Between you and Robert, you guys write some of the most “common sensical” items to be found in marketing blogs or sites on the ‘net. Thank You so very much for that.

    On to your observation, You are 100% right, that it is easier for us to to reach a “little” or an “incremental” goal than it is to set and reach a “big” goal…or is it?

    I am a firm believer that it all depends on the person, their “make-up” and their upbringing.

    Anymore, most of us didn’t have parents that were extremely strict about anything (it wasn’t very p.c. and our society has been getting away from that slowly, but surely for a while now), so most of us do need to separate our goals into big, hairy, audacious or small achievable goals.

    I really think it’s a matter of semantics…goal, step, part of the procedure…, doesn’t matter what you call it, to get to a certain outcome, certain steps need to, or should be taken and it really doesn’t matter what we call those steps, as long as we find it in ourselves to do what we know needs to be done.

    Again, Thank You so much for the advice and experience you so freely share and the thoughts you invoke with your observations.

    Rog

    January 23, 2012 at 6:24 pm
  • Stephen Bray Reply

    Wo man, fantastic . . . I did ten days on brown rice a couple of times. It’s kinda crazy isn’t it how perceptions change when you do something like this?

    After a few days I found that there was no choice but to go on. I mean I would sooner have not eaten anything than the brown rice . . . and all the time I got to feel better and better.

    At the end of the ten days, of course, it was necessary to go back to a wider choice of food, and that was perhaps more complex than just eating the rice.

    But, as you have discovered, the key to achieving goals, is to have a great wife who will keep you at it ๐Ÿ˜‰

    That’s my take anyway ๐Ÿ™‚

    Stephen

    January 25, 2012 at 4:41 am
  • Dr. Debra Reply

    I always appreciate how real you are and the mindset tips you share from your own life. So you probably have consumed many green smoothies by now!

    I wish I had a Marti to believe in and push me!

    The key to succeeding in life – hmmm, just one key? That’s really hard and it depends on what you mean by success… But I think loving God, loving others and putting action to both.

    The key to reaching goals? Forward motion, even if small steps, keep going, keep moving forward and never ever give up.

    January 26, 2012 at 11:29 pm
  • Judy Jackson Reply

    This post has been nagging at me since I read it. I’ve now put up little “CHOOSE” sticky note signs on or by everything I’m having difficulty with. And, hey, it’s working.

    January 27, 2012 at 11:29 am
  • Ann Moore Reply

    I do believe that you should have an overall vision, “the big Goal” sort of speak…

    But I really appreciate that you zone in on the importance of taking the “little” steps toward the overall vision.

    Otherwise it is just another DAY DREAM, and believe me, I have spent many a years day dreaming…

    Lance, you hit the nail on the head it starts and is every decision we make, every step of the way.

    Thanks so much, you have revolutionized my thinking with this and “get rid of the to do list.”

    I actually get things DONE, feel better about myself, my kiddos are happier too ๐Ÿ˜‰ and my husband has more confidence in what I am doing as I am able to express the steps I am taking.

    This is much easier than trying to explain the big goal because naturally my husband would ask, “How do you plan to achieve it?”

    Back to the small steps, Lance!

    “Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome.” Booker T. Washington

    To your healthy success! Thanks for the post.

    January 27, 2012 at 7:07 pm
  • Troy Reply

    Lance,
    I love it. You are so true that you need to focus on little successes. But you also had something else – GREAT SUPPORT. Your wife was there pointing the way, your friends and family where there to listen and support. Those are priceless when making changes.

    When new year’s eve was headed our way I was thinking the same thing. Too often we (myself included) make this HUGE “pie in the sky” dreams into goals and resolutions. Instead have a vision of where you want to head, but focus on little steps. Just like your 10 day fast.
    http://cubedwellerfitness.com/2011/12/do-not-set-new-years-resolutions/

    Then I thought about my own eating habits. I honestly hadn’t realized that it has been over six months since I made a change. With small steps change can become easy. Before you know it six months have past. Check out how I quit eating my favorite meal of the day … and kept it up for 6 months.
    http://cubedwellerfitness.com/2011/06/quit-eating-breakfast-intermittent-fasting/

    Great post Lance.
    So will you continue on the fast? What’s your next step?

    -Troy

    January 28, 2012 at 9:54 am
  • Don Reply

    Hi Lance,

    Very Nice! What you are describing here is something we all do in everyday life but never really seeing it. To get through your day you go second by second, minute by minute & hour by hour. If you really wanted to you could manage every second but who ever does that?

    Wow! I think I am going to pay attention more to all the little things I do in a day and why I am doing them to begin with. Thanks for the new perspective. ๐Ÿ™‚

    January 28, 2012 at 10:48 am
  • Tony Clingan Reply

    Hi Lance

    I think you raise a really important point here for two reasons,number one is that every journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step,the second and vital bit is for people to understand that they must keep working through to completion

    In this time of wild claims and push button solutions people have somehow lost track of the need to work and maintain discipline,without it you are going to fail

    Thanks for sharing

    Tony

    January 28, 2012 at 11:14 am
  • Gerry Lacuarta Reply

    Hi Lance,

    First, I’ve got to tell you that I love the way you wrote the story, like you were speaking it. It really hooked me, it even had your expressions. (I didn’t get to hear the video because I just moved all my stuff to the other corner of the room, I’m a makeover nut! ๐Ÿ™‚ So I just read the written post, and what I really want to contribute in this discussion is my 2-cent about what you raised in the latter part of the post — that of focusing on achieving your goal and doing little steps to achieve it. Even if we have little success at first, we got to keep digging until we hit gold, rather than jumping from one unfinished thing to another and leaving a trail of half-dug holes in our path.

    Enjoy the weekend and the veggies!

    Gerry

    January 28, 2012 at 12:17 pm
  • Thersea Wagar Reply

    Lance . .. you totally rock! What a blessing having a supportive wife is (hugs to Martie!)

    I think you missed an important point here . . . you listened to your most valuable partner (Martie) and followed through with her support. Would you even have started doing this without her planning and encouragement to start?

    I talk about making good decisions with my teenagers ALL THE TIME. You reminded me I have to be talking to myself about those minute by minute decisions, too.

    Thanks for making the complex simple

    Theresa ๐Ÿ˜Ž

    January 28, 2012 at 1:30 pm
  • Quentin Pain Reply

    I stumbled upon your wonderful site re Robert Plank (so thanks Rob).

    Great advice. Step by step, day by day, little by little, call it what you like, it works.

    January 28, 2012 at 5:14 pm
  • Ken Healthy Secrets Reply

    I have had to make some choices lately and I have found that targeting good alternatives is my best plan of attack. I needed to give up sugar so I switched to diet soda and several rice dishes.

    I didn’t take off any weight drinking diet soda and I had a problem with gout.

    I switched to ice tea, ice coffee and water. I lost a lot of weight, and my gout went away and I am still staying away from sugar.

    It breaks down to making choices and changing your habits. You need to make corrections to hit your target goal.

    January 28, 2012 at 6:32 pm
  • Mark Reply

    Hi Lance
    Out of interest, if you didn’t have the, let’s say “extra motivation”, of Martie helping you keep on track would you still be there?

    I agree with everything you’ve said but I think sometimes you really need the help of somebody who really cares about your success to keep you focused when the going gets a bit tough.

    January 29, 2012 at 5:28 am
  • Rah Reply

    Excellent tips and advice Lance. I think I’m going to try submitting at least 1 article to ezinearticles every day for the next 10 days no matter what. I’ll let you know how I progressed in 10 days.

    February 12, 2012 at 6:18 pm
  • Ross Purviance Reply

    Hi,
    I was wondering what you would recommend for making subscriber capable my market direction website, WeeklySwingTrader.net.

    Note that I have not added charts yet. Each market will have a chart so about 37 charts. (archives will have charts too.)

    Ross

    June 19, 2012 at 7:57 pm
  • Sabrina Reply

    Hi Lance,

    Great message!

    I think the key to success is knowing that the power within you is greater than you think, literally. If your thinking is not moving you forward, taking small steps as you mention; it’s holding you back.

    December 16, 2012 at 8:39 pm

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