I admit it

I admit it

I admit it. I bought the dream.

I honestly thought that building a successful online business was easy, little work and would allow me not only financial freedom but also more free time than I would know what to do with.

I couldn’t wait to buy a brand new laptop and sit in a bar while making money sending out emails.

My wife bought it too. She couldn’t wait to spend more time at Sundance Resort “doing nothing”.

It was all so easy. While I admit I am not the smartest person in the world, I can usually figure things out after beating my head against the wall a few times. So I started building a list and my business.

Things were going great! Well except for the fact that I wasn’t making as much money as I thought and I was constantly tired, overwhelmed, frustrated and confused. I was literally working 2 jobs and didn’t feel any closer to financial freedom or personal freedom. The exact opposite was happening.

I rarely saw my wife or family. I didn’t talk to my friends for weeks at a time. And for what? To be able to pay myself $2 per hour? (If not less?)

This isn’t the way the dream was supposed to happen.

It got even worse for me about November of last year. My list had grown to a size that most people could not believe. It was even fairly responsive. I had learned how to make “just enough” from it. But it was nothing that could cover my bills, let alone take my wife on her getaway she had been planning.

I admit it. I panicked.

I could no longer justify the amount of time that I was spending on my “business”. And that sucked because I could see that I was so close. I knew that I almost got it. I just knew it was within reach.

Then I looked at my “business”. I looked at it hard.

I had a very big list. I did know how to earn some money from it, so I knew it was possible.

I was quickly becoming a stranger to Grace and my wife. I am so fortunate that I have a wife who believes in my and supports me. But this was NOT what was supposed to be happening. The dream I bought into was supposed to have me rolling around on the floor and playing with Grace. I bet she didn’t see me 1 hour per day during this time.

I had no real product, something I made. What? How could I not have a product? Isn’t that just mandatory?

My business was empty. I didn’t know the people on my list. I didn’t give them anything special. What I did was just copy and paste pre-made emails and hoped people bought the product. My list could care less about me and the way I was treating them I was showing I could care less about them.

I had basically decided that I need something to change or I had to give up, which I didn’t want to do.

I looked around me and contacted Jason Fladlien. I told him I wanted to talk to him about my business and I him paid him to do so.

What started as a customer – client phone call has no turned into a great friendship and my business has changed.

He convinced me.

Jason convinced me that I had all the foundation in place to create a new business, one that would achieve all of the goals that I had including more time with my family.

He convinced me that it wasn’t hard to make my own product.

He convinced me that I could connect with my list and they would forgive me for my “copy and paste” tactics of the past and that I had lots to share with them.

I got focused

Since that phone call my business is thriving, I feel better about what my business is and most importantly I get to spend time all day long taking “breaks” and playing with my daughter.

Her current favorite thing is to watch Diego and make dad do what she calls the “Diego Dance”. This basically means dad gets to jump around in circles and sing and laugh all ending with a big hug from her.

I also started getting emails from readers on my list. They were actually taking time out of their busy days to ask me a question or thank me for a recommendation or a product and a few times just to tell me thanks for the email.

So far this year I have launched 5 products (I think, yikes) and am consistently finding more time to spend with my family.

What changed? I watched what Jason and his business partner Robert Plank were doing and copied them.

What did they both have in common? They are both MASTERS of time management. In fact, I even like to refer to Robert as “Super Robert”.

I started simple and took on 1, just 1 of their time management tips and got amazing results.

First, I started not trying to plan everything at once. Robert talks about his grandfather having “lists of lists he needed to make”… that was me. No wonder I had no time. How did I solved this?

Start thinking of your day not in projects but just tasks. I write down 4 tasks that I can complete in a single sitting and do them, one at a time. It is amazing how much you can get done when you aren’t thinking about a million things.

In between each task I reward myself by leaving the office and going to play with Grace and spend time with my wife. Even if it is just 10 or 15 minutes. It’s amazing how much quality time you have when you focus on one thing.

Just Try It!

It may sound simple and might sound stupid, but you are still reading this.

Just try this one thing. Make a simple of lists of tasks. Not projects. And just complete those. Don’t think about anything else.

This simple little trick literally brought me one step closer to realizing “the dream”.

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Comments (13)

  • Thomas Reply

    Nice tip Lance,Make your daily to do list and stick to that,and the next thing I know I will be moving forward.

    Thomas’s last blog post..Three Thousand Extra a month

    March 7, 2009 at 10:48 am
  • Shelley Reply

    Its a Great Article Lance!
    My favourite’ The million dollars(even billion dollars or more..) notes are:

    “Start thinking of your day not in projects but just tasks. I write down 4 tasks that I can complete in a single sitting and do them, one at a time. It is amazing how much you can get done when you aren’t thinking about a million things”.


    March 7, 2009 at 11:53 am
  • Kathleen Gresham Reply


    Thank you for this post. It was very inspiring. It makes me glad to be on your list.


    March 7, 2009 at 12:03 pm
  • Andrew Reply

    Hi Lance,

    As a member of DailySeminar and a buyer of Jason and Robert’s products I know how good they are!

    I’m really pleased that your business is going together and I take inspiration from your post.

    Keep up the good work


    March 7, 2009 at 1:18 pm
  • Lucie Bellemare Reply

    Hi Lance,

    I have to admit it too, I bought into the same dream! What is hard to do is to keep your focus when you are bombarded with so many pitches about how this or that product or technique is supposedly the best there ever was and that it will definitely be your big break through. Making a to-do list is the right thing to do so as not to get too distracted. 🙂

    Lucie Bellemare’s last blog post..WordPress Twitter Plugins

    March 7, 2009 at 1:21 pm
  • Ken Reply

    Easier said than done. There is no one recipe to get things done. What you relate is a nice story but things never happen in linear format just look at the history of any subject. Genetics, algebra,psychology, internet marketing., It is up and down. So all that work you had to go through before you met your saviour you probably had to do it and was probably the only reason that your where able to recognize the traits in someoneelse that you required to push you forward. I don’t think there are any shortcuts for anything that is worth doing because eventually you are going to have to differentiate yourself from the crowd and push forward at that point you are always alone. I undertook a PhD in Biochemistry and had a department full of professors to help me forward but at the point when I had come up with something original I had to do it alone and it was only that that propelled me forward no mentoring no nothing. Hope this helps.

    March 7, 2009 at 1:54 pm
  • Lance Tamashiro Reply

    It is amazing how such a simple exercise can help clear so much of the noise. It always felt like there was an impossible mountain in front of me and that just paralyzed me.

    Breaking my day into bite sized tasks keeps me focused and moving in the right direction without getting completely overwhelmed with “the big picture”.

    March 7, 2009 at 2:41 pm
  • Zsolt Eszes Reply

    As always, Lance, excellent advice!

    I used to have “A.D.D.” when it came to Internet Marketing, work, life in general. I couldn’t seem to focus on one task at a time, and constantly would bounce from project to project, wondering why I never got anything done. I was trying to do too much at once. 3 weeks would go by, and I wouldn’t have ANYTHING finished. Sometimes, not even started!

    Then one day I listened to a “binaural beat” mp3 that was supposed to help me improve my ability to focus. I downloaded it to my cellphone mp3 player, put on the earbuds, played the mp3, and went to work. The mp3 was only 1 hour long. When the file was done playing, I took off the earbuds and looked at what I had accomplished. Holy cow! It worked! LOL. I had gotten more done in that 1 hour than I’d ever done in 5x as much time. All from focusing on one task at a time, and not allowing any distractions to take my focus away.

    Focus and time management is the #1 make-or-break of success. You can have the biggest list in the world. Or the best product. Or more time on your hands than a beach bum living on the coast of Tahiti. But if you don’t manage your time, or focus on what needs to be done and when, nothing else matters, and you’re just wasting everything.

    Speaking of which, time to focus on another task 😉


    March 7, 2009 at 3:51 pm
  • April Vereen Reply

    What an inspiring post, Lance! You’re one of the most genuine people I know and the most helpful – you’ve shown that yet again with this post. Thanks for keeping up motivated and giving us such great advice! 🙂

    April Vereen’s last blog post..The Secret to Learning More in Less Time…..

    March 7, 2009 at 4:15 pm
  • Michelle Reply

    Thanx for the encouragement and advice.

    March 7, 2009 at 7:55 pm
  • Tracey "Biz Doc" Dooley Reply

    Great post, Lance. And I LOVE that tip – that’s what I’ve been trying; splitting up huge, seemingly overwhelming ‘projects’ into smaller, more manageable tasks. Works most of the time, but I admit I do get sidetracked and distracted with email/surfing sometimes. 😉

    Also, as you say, I do think it helps when you do have a supportive, understanding partner (my SO has been monumental in helping me to spread my business wings).

    Tracey “Biz Doc” Dooley’s last blog post..Now is NOT the Time to Stop Emailing

    March 10, 2009 at 12:13 pm
  • Theresa Mayhew Reply

    Hi Lance,
    Great tips on focusing and working on “tasks”. I got a little timer software program that I can set for 45 minutes to an hour . . . work like crazy and then take a break.

    Thanks for an inspiring post,

    Theresa Mayhew’s last blog post..Video Infomercials With Rob Brooks

    March 13, 2009 at 2:40 pm
  • Curtis Reply

    Thank You…

    April 4, 2010 at 7:08 pm

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